Before you launch into any stories about what’s bringing you down - be it money, relationships, health, whatever - take a breath and ask yourself this question:
"What's the real source of my stress?"
Go ahead. Ponder it for a minute. I have time.
It's not what you think it is.
It's not the person, thing, lack of the thing, or too much of the thing.
Those external circumstances always change.
If we give our power away to this, then our level of ease is always dependent on what's happening around us. Don't let the wind knock you over!
The actual source of stress is three fold.
(What many focus on, like a broken record, thinking the answers will somehow emerge there)
NOT KNOWING HOW TO SOLVE THE SITUATION
(Also known as feeling stuck & disempowered)
LACK OF TRUST
(In yourself, in life working out, in others)
➡️ Get to the root!
The thing is, sometimes situations really do suck and challenge us beyond what we feel we might be capable of. Sometimes, you can't change the actual circumstance. Sometimes, in the moment, you won't know the answer. You have to trust.
Let’s consider your body.
You trust you'll continue breathing. That trust is so ingrained in you that you don't even think about your breathing, it just happens. Trust.
Take being alive on planet earth.
You trust life will continue, despite the fact that we are living on a rock in space with a whole series of interconnections you know nothing about, that allow us to function, adapt and even thrive here. You trust on a daily basis that the world won't end today. Trust.
When you're stressed, there is something you're not trusting in. Where could you reestablish trust?
Lack of trust is core to the source of your stress. That's why mindfulness is trendy these days. Your breath and stillness reminds you to trust.
Up for a challenge?
Flip your script on where you're feeling stuck or stressed.