Coming out as a psychic, again

It has taken me 30 years to come out as a psychic in the way that I am about to. 30 years!! 3 decades!! Wow.

Well, here we are, and I want to tell you the story of what prompted me to claim this today.

Earlier this week, I attended a pitch party for a new business community I joined. In it, as you would assume, we each had the opportunity to pitch, to hone our elevator speech, share who we are and what we do.

I both love and hate these kinds of experiences because there are many hats I wear in my business that shift depending on who I’m talking to. The work I do isn’t generic life coaching or basic business mentoring. It’s for a very specific type of person - the one who knows they are here to build the new, using their purpose work to shift the paradigm, and are in the process of doing so.

This is a specific stage of the journey, mid-build, where something isn’t moving in their purpose work, an inner or outer block showed up. Makes sense to me! But not always to others.

Alas, my initial pitch didn’t completely land.

It seemed like they mostly understood, but didn’t get what I specifically do.

A flash of inner frustration popped in and I thought, ug, after all these years, I still can’t smoosh my work into a tidy little box and sum it up so others track it. The facilitator followed up and said “I’m guessing by your language that you are some type of transformational coach, right? What’s your exact title?”

I felt like I was going to burst. Instead, these words burst out of me:

“There’s many hats I wear, coach is one of them, but really, what I do is - I’m a psychic. When I look at you through the lens of energy, I see the larger purpose work you are here for, what your role in the paradigm shift is, what’s been draining your energy and blocking the build of what you’re here to do, then how to correct it in a way that aligns to your unique energy.

All of this information exists in your energetic field, as an overlay on top of your physical self. I see it as if it is manifest, as if it is physical, and reflect that back.

Once you see yourself in this way, you can’t help but be lit up and on fire for the vision and mission you are here for. Everyone is out there chasing identity upgrades and your future self, but it’s quite literally already there in your energy field. We just haven’t learned how to see it, claim it, and embody it in this way.”

Mic drop. Or rather, jaw drop.

Everyone at the event is silent, present, staring at me with intrigue, interest, or like a dog with its head tilted to the side out of curiosity and excitement.

I felt better. Phew it was good to get that out.

What I said was the standard thing I used to say in every new client session, or in the few times I came out online as a psychic. But it’s been years since I’ve shared it because I… rebranded.

Energy Guide. Identity Seer. Spiritual Mentor. Wellness Educator. Intuitive Coach. Holistic Business Mentor. Transformational Coach. Messenger. Holistic Healer.

All accurate. I use all of those skills. But really, I am a psychic. I have a gift as a psychic.

The irony is I spent so many years in resistance to the title of Psychic, that apparently, times have changed and everyone and their mom is a psychic (or healer, or coach) these days.

It may be my algorithm, but I come across so many profiles of people claiming this title, and I can see (psychically) they actually aren’t. It’s not their gift. It’s not what they’re here to do.

Admittedly, sometimes I feel a bit mad about this. How have I struggled for so long to own this gift that comes so naturally for me, and now it’s commonplace?? And people are using it without integrity? Gah!

Alas, the more mature part of me knows it doesn’t ultimately matter.

How many times have I titled my work something other than what I do and am genuinely gifted at? Plenty.

We are all on the journey of discovering, identifying, and sharing who we are and how we serve.

I absolutely know without a shadow of a doubt that energy and consciousness is shifting. As a collective, we are getting more attuned to energy in ways we never could before. We are needing to make sense of the “more” of life, what reality actually is, and our role in shaping it at that energetic level.

Looking at life through the energy lens is the bridge back to our true sense of self, our authenticity, and the empowerment needed to navigate life. This is what I teach others and stand for.

But this week in particular, I needed a deeper reclaiming of my gift, what I title myself, and how I speak about it. I had to sit with why I have been holding back, why I resisted leading with the psychic title on the larger (social media) stage even though I’m fine to share it 1:1.

People who know me and have worked with me know I’m psychic. It’s literally why they choose to work with me, not new information or a secret. But in a large group, or online, I hold back.

Here’s what I realised:

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I don’t want judgement, projection, or assumption around what it means to be psychic placed on me. For most of my life, I have felt sensitive about being sensitive. Even other sensitive people would say “Oh wow, you’re really sensitive” when I would share things I experienced and perceived.

Owning the title of psychic comes with an extra rub around fitting in, even with the sensitive crew. That’s been an ouchy place in my psyche that I’ve had to learn how to heal and reconcile over the years.

When I walk into rooms, online or in person, people tend to have an immediate energy response to me. I feel it. I see it. Those that love to excavate what’s under the surface so they can shine brighter usually love me. Those that want nothing to do with inner work, can’t stand me.

I have had to learn how to be more self-responsible with my own energetic protection and boundaries so I don’t take on and absorb anyone’s misguided limited stories about what it means to be psychic. I’ve also had to learn how to not hook into anyone’s expectations of me fixing their life like a shiny unicorn on a pedestal.

So I watered down the title of Psychic to Energy Guide & Identity Seer. It is more technically accurate and took off the pressure I felt around labeling myself a psychic.

Plus, it matches with my Energy Guide Certification, where it’s not about teaching people to be psychic like me, but how to read energy in their own unique way so they can then use their sensitivity for serving others who would truly benefit from having the energy lens in their lives.

Except…

I am psychic, and honestly just need to say it. If I am holding my own energy correctly, it doesn’t matter if people praise me or judge me. That’s their business. Not mine.

2

I don’t want to be seen as a generic psychic or woo, to show pony your potential like a crystal ball.

I’m not here to read cards or talk to your dead relatives or unpack all your past lives.

I’m here to get you in right relationship with your purpose work.

That means you already need to be in process with it.

It’s a collaborative conversation.

The goal is to get you so rooted in your true sense of self and the larger mission you are on, to pair your purpose work with the paradigm shift, to be crystal clear on what you are here to build and the impact you are here to make, then dial in the inner and outer work needed for that to happen.

This is right livelihood work. This is depth work. This is honouring and fulfilling on your contract with God.

I work with people who already know they are born to build the new and are committed to doing it.

People come to me for correction. They want to move. I want you to move.

Not reveal your gifts so you can then sit on them. I mean, really. 😂

But it wasn’t always like that for me. For years, literally decades, I struggled with WHO this work was for.

I hid behind the guise of trust. Trusting whoever would show up, whatever they would ask me about.

I figured if it was a gift, I’m just supposed to use it, so I did.

Except I completely left myself out of the equation.

Though I reflected on who I enjoyed working with the most, I didn’t yet set that standard or share that when I posted or connected with others. Instead, I talked more about the mechanics of what I do, rather than who it was for. This brought more than a handful of people who just wanted me to read them, not what I am here for.

Once I started getting more and more and more clear on what lights me up - the transformational healers, the purpose driven creatives, the emerging new paradigm leaders, the spiritual messengers, the sensitive visionaries who often have regenerative focused projects - I knew I wanted to work with them.

All that lights me up! My enthusiasm is genuine.

This is who I want to be surrounded by - clients, colleagues, collaborators, and community who are also lit up by what they do, passionate, self-responsible, do the work, clear in their communication. Building the new.

That’s been the biggest shift for me.

To claim HOW I want to use this gift and WHO I want to use it with.

You might not have guessed but it was going through all this hard stuff that helped me get here.

When you go through a series of challenges that bring you to your knees, where there’s nowhere to go but up, you are no longer willing to play the old games you used to with yourself.

Though I massively refined my website and offers, felt a shift inside, I hadn’t linked any of the stagnancy I’ve been having in my business to not reclaiming the title of psychic. Apparently, after 30 years of flitting in and out of owning this roles, I needed things to be really hit over the head, in my face obvious.

So, I went on two podcasts as a guest, completely forgot what I was supposed to be talking about and started talking about being psychic instead. I go to two networking events this week and instead of talking all these refinements I’ve done around pairing purpose work with paradigm shift, I talk about being psychic instead.

I had no conscious clue I needed to reclaim the title even when it kept coming out of my mouth whenever I spoke. Mostly, this week, I found myself really, definitively, profoundly DONE with hiding, watering down, people pleasing, placating, softening, not saying what I actually want to say, not claiming what I can do/what I’m capable of. Everything this week kept bringing me back to that.

Posts I came across. Podcasts I tuned into. Mismatched expectations around my work. How I expressed what I did. Multiple behind the scenes pieces around how my work shapes my personal life. All pointing back to what needed to shift, and how integrating the title of Psychic back into my work, to lead with that, within the context of HOW it works and WHO it’s for, has been such a powerful reclaiming for me this week.

DONE.

I wrote down a series of questions to help me figure out what was actually blocking me, and what I needed to do to call back my power, my purpose, and my psychic gift for the stage of my work I am entering into. I am sharing them here with the intent they’ll unlock something for you too.

The questions that unblocked me

What is life calling me to do differently now?

What would it look like if I just claimed all of it?

How has my identity shifted over this past year?

What is actually working for my business, and not?

How have I been showing up across platforms and people?

What messages and signs have I been getting in the last few weeks on repeat?

What have I been wanting to do that I haven’t been doing, personally and professionally?

How do I really feel about what I’m doing, and what needs to be shifted in practice or perspective?

What do I think is going to happen if I just straight up said I’m a psychic? How many times have I come out as a psychic - what prompted that, and what led me to go back in hiding around it again?

What would be different if I brought all aspects of my self, whatever is alive, aligned, and present in me at the moment to whatever I’m doing? Can I trust myself to hold the energy that wants to emerge?

Why do I choose to hold back? What do I say I’m doing (refining, rebranding, etc) but I’m actually just hiding?

What are we even doing here if not using our gifts to the fullest? I no longer consent to insulting myself and God by hiding away the most potent aspects of myself. How about you?